Thursday, September 13, 2007

Officially Obama!!

If you have followed this blog, or happen to know me personally, you know I am a life-long Democrat. The party is not perfect and I don't follow anything blindly (ask my husband!) However, I am a PERMANENT Democrat. The parties would have to do a 180 for me to change that.

As you can imagine, the last seven years have been rough! Between the 2000 election debacle and the never-ending Iraq war, I was *this* close to giving up on politics. When your country is headed in the WRONG direction, what do you do? I'll tell ya. You feel like a prisoner in your own home and become completely disengaged. I have bounced between both feelings...and yes, I do take it that seriously!

After years of anger and outrage, I realized action was my only choice. Martin Luther King, Jr. once quoted Marti Jose with, "I'd rather die on my feet than live on my knees." That sums up my beliefs on everything in life. I have never been one to shut up, only to get "done" in the end. Again, my husband can vouch for me on that one!

When the media started covering the 2008 election (back in 2006!) I knew it was time. I have spent my entire life watching from the sidelines and there was no time like the present to change that. While I enjoy offering commentary, words without action mean nothing. As the cliche goes, "You are either part of the problem or part of the solution."

Mention the Jena Six, Imus/Hip-Hop, Genarlow Wilson or NCLB and you're sure to boil my blood. This country is topsy-turvy if you ask me. The rich get richer (check out this satirical Onion piece) and the poor get killed after unlawful break-ins by COPS.

We need a resolution...and I am convinced Senator Barack Obama is the answer.

I did not make this decision lightly. I started off as a STRONG Clinton supporter. I know what we'd get with Hillary...I mean she's just Bill minus the charisma right? Despite what the conservatives say, I thought she was the one. Then I read Audacity of Hope! If you saw my posts, you know this book really touched me. I think it should be required reading for the voting public. Barack is not a politician, he's a motivator and one of the best sociologist I've read. He knows what he's talking about and has gone to great leangths to analyze our issues and provide reasonable solutions to them. He is not defined or limited by his labels (e.g., Black, newcomer, Democrat, liberal.) This man is the truth and for that reason, I am officially Obama now!

I attended a volunteer meeting this past Saturday. It was not surprising to see dozens of supporters in the Atlanta area (due to a large population of Democrats and minorities.) However, it was surprising to see so much diversity in the room of supporters. The crowd was a mix of generations, colors and even sexual orientation, and we were all there to support our first Black president.

As I walked to my seat, I was greeted by a young Black male. When I first saw him, I assumed his parent forced him to come. I couldn't have been more wrong! This HIGH SCHOOL student was one of our leaders and an official Camp Obama graduate! After local politicians shafted his school--and failed to make promised repairs--this young man took action. After seeing Obama on TV, he was intrigued to learn more and read everything he could find on the senator. He then signed up to help out because, as he said, Barack is the only truth-speaker/seeker out there...and I totally agree!!!

So, for those that aren't too sure about Barack I suggest you watch the videos below and then cop The Audacity of Hope. I promise it will move you...hopefully it will move you to vote for Barack!!

UPDATE: Oprah loves the "Ice Cream Man"



Make 'em say "UHHHHHHH, NANANA" Percy!!

Oprah hosted her much-talked-about fundraiser for Obama this past weekend. A surprising guest was none other than Mr. Ice Cream Man himself. I didn't know whether to be happy or sad that he was there. On one hand, he WAS the only rapper in attendance and that speaks volumes. But, given her distaste for misogynistic and profane lyrics, I find this picture SO comical...I mean this IS the Ice Cream Man...

Remember P back in '98? Does Opes remember P back in '98? He built the house that gave us "Shake Ya Ass" and I Got the Hookup...not exactly Ope's cup of tea. I know, I know, he has changed his ways and vows to make clean music from now on (which was his only option considering how people stopped buying his "dirty" music many moons ago.) This is TOO funny to me. I love it!

Wednesday, August 29, 2007

Mike Vick: Can he live?


"I reside in VA, ride in VA
Most likely when I die, I'm gon' die in VA
Virginia's for lovers, but trust there's hate here...

Ironic, the same place I'm makin' figures at
That there's the same land they used to hang niggas at...in Virginia"

- The Clipse “Virginia”


For some reason, the Mike Vick story has really stirred something in me. Never expected to have as much emotion --or defense--for ole Ron Mexico! As previous posts show, he's one of my favorite f'ups to discuss. I mean, who has better stories than Ron? Stolen watches, herpes, water bottles with hidden compartments and now dogfighting! This guy has proven to be a piece of work. Before now, I had little to no sympathy for him. I admired his talent and accomplishments, but found him comical.

But, something has changed. I am now intrigued, saddened and concerned for Mike. Maybe it's our similarities? We were both born and raised in Virginia. Though our hometowns are seemingly worlds apart, I'm sure that's part of it. We're kinfolk...kinda. I know and understand growing up with an addicted and absent father. After years of bouncing in and out of prison, my own father died of a heroin overdose. I was 16. For the record, Mr. Bodie claims to have been there...but I believe Vick and his moms on that one!

Back to the point, I remember how those things changed me...and not for the best. When you don't have needed support at home, you turn to anyone or anything that will cure that feeling. Thankfully, my issues were minor speed bumps in my life. But, I fully understand how those feelings can have a stronger effect on different people. I've witnessed that with my own brother, who struggled to stay on the right path. So, I guess, I always thought Mike was like many fatherless men I know...immature because he lacked proper home training...which is whose fault?

The point is; I understand Mike. This dog-fighting thing is just an extension of previous behaviors. The details of the case were horrible and I will not dare defend his crimes. He knowingly committed them and should face punishment. But, I don't understand the hate and anger some Americans have dished at him. If I didn't know better, I'd swear people were describing Wayne Williams, the infamous Atlanta Child Killer. Scum of the Earth? Sadistic and mentally insane? Get out of here!

In the WP, John Feinstein wrote an article saying Vick should never play football again. Here's an excerpt:
...But Vick going behind bars doesn't mean he or his story are going away. Even with his plea eliminating the "he's innocent until proven guilty" argument, there will still going to be plenty of people who argue that Vick really isn't a bad guy or that he was set up by prosecutors or they will use the ever-popular cliché: "He made a mistake and deserves another chance."

Does Vick deserve another chance to go on with his life once he has served his jail time? Yes. But not as a professional football player.

There are certain crimes that people commit that make it impossible for them to return to society in certain jobs. If you commit a crime against a child, chances are pretty good you won't be allowed to teach children in the future. If you are seriously involved in drugs you probably shouldn't apply for a job as an airline pilot after your jail time is up. It isn't an absolute, but anyone who has committed a felony will probably find gaining admission to most law schools difficult.

Vick's crime is both brutal and cruel. Other than beating up a woman or a child, killing dogs for sport or entertainment is about as cowardly an act as exists. Those who make the weak "how is it different from hunting?" argument miss the point. I'm no hunter (never held a gun in my life and think the second amendment should be abolished) but there are legitimate reasons why hunting is legal in some places, some of the time. It is heartbreaking when dogs or cats are euthanized legally but at least their deaths are painless and do not take place to give sick people their jollies.

Vick and his friends are sick. Even if Vick can convince people he's truly sorry for what he did -- and it says here the only thing he'll ever be sorry for is getting caught -- that doesn't mean he should be allowed to play in the National Football League again.

If you play in the NFL, you are, by definition, viewed by a lot of people as a hero...Mike Flynn said, describing what it was like to walk onto the field in street clothes because of an injury as opposed to running onto the field in uniform during player introductions: "You go out there in street clothes, you're just another guy. You run through that tunnel in uniform, you feel like you're a God."

Michael Vick doesn't deserve to ever feel that way again. If he wants to go back to Virginia Tech and finish his degree, that's fine. There are plenty of jobs he can get when he's done his jail time. But football shouldn't be one of them.

Forget the money. He's forfeited his right to be a hero, to hear those cheers anymore.

If someone participates in, or even attends, a dog-fighting match, I am willing to bet he's not a member of PETA and has little to no concern for the life of a dog. For whatever reason (e.g., southern upbringing, ignorant, childish), he does not value dogs. In the same way, I do not value fleas, spiders, rats, roaches, ants and the like. Say what you will--and I'm NOT advocating dog-fighting or breaking the law--but that's a valid argument! We have varying levels of respect for animals and one man's lack of respect for dogs cannot be called insane. Not without additional evidence to prove that. Mike may be immature, but I don't think he's insane or crazy.

These dogs battle it out and often die DURING the match or are so injured they must be put down. So I find it hard to make killing a dog a worse act than viewing a dog fight. I won't pretend to understand why anyone would enjoy a dog-fight, but I've known people who have. I always figured it was fairly similar to enjoying a boxing match or...gasp...a brutal football game! This I know for sure; it is not unheard of in the south. Mike's participation is related to the company he kept and the prevalence of dog-fighting in our country. He is not alone in that world and while we may not condone or understand it, death and injury are part of it. Now that he's pled, animal rights activists are calling for the dogs to be put down--as they do with THOUSANDS of animals. Feinstein says euthanizing, when done legally, is less brutal. Dead is dead. Which reminds me of an interesting and slightly off topic point; we legally electrocute and suffocate humans in many states.

But, Feinstein and many others are calling for an end to the man's life because he fought dogs. What I don't understand is; how does that help anyone? What does taking away a man's right to earn a living--using PURE God-given talent--do to better society? He pled guilty and should serve whatever sentence he's given. However, the public interest should stop there in my opinion. What else does he owe US? Nothing. And the notion that he has lost his "right" to be a hero is silly! What hero, besides the fictional kind, was/is perfect? Every hero of mine, from Martin to Malcolm, had well-documented flaws and imperfections. Even heroes are HUMAN.

Rightfully so, his employer will impose a punishment. So long as it's not done to make an example of him (a la Pacman) and follows standard procedure, I think that's fair. But, I do take issue with us outsiders calling for the man's ban. Again, I ask why? What is it, inside of us, that makes us feel good to see another man's life OVER? Insecurity? Jealousy? I don't know, but I know I am sickened by comments like the above. Everyone DOES deserve a second chance, if not we'd all be up the creek.

"Happy to be escapin poverty, however brief
I know this game got valleys and peaks, expectation for dips
...Can I live?"

- Jay-z "Can I Live"

Friday, August 10, 2007

More Evidence of Southern Hospitality

So I came across an article, in the AJC, regarding the growing Hispanic population in Gwinnett County (an Atlanta suburb.) A sick hobby of mine is browsing http://www.ajc.com/ and reading the reader comments...especially the "Vent" section. It's pure comedy for a moderately-liberal-Black-yankee like me ;) I sometimes get caught up and write these long rants. Today is one of those days, the comments turned to how this is the second time moving was necessary...the first being when "the Blacks" came. Here's my rant:

Interesting comments. Can't say that I'm surprised by any of it. Yes, I'm a "Yankee" who chose to live here. But, I remain surprised at the level of bigotry and ignorance some of you have.

I grew up in a majority white--but fairly diverse--surburb outside DC. I knew several Black families that owned--and maintained--nice homes. When I lived in Maryland, my child attended a private school which was nearly 100% Black. Parents were very involved and the students tested well and were good kids.

Reading these comments leads you to believe these things aren't possible. But, I know several Blacks, in and out of Atlanta, that tell me differently. I AM one of those Black people and find your comments highly offensive! Is it that you haven't left your front stoop? Or are you that blind?

White folks did not invent morality or "goodness." Let's hypothetically agree that Blacks/Hispanics/Others are somehow morally corrupt or less than Whites. Well how do you, as good ole Christian boys, explain that? Did God somehow corrupt an entire race of people? I mean you claim Blacks do most of the violent crimes (more on that later) and that we are stupid and low level, so how do you explain that? How do you explain Blacks who don't fit those stereotypes? I will agree Blacks are disproportionately represented in our prison systems and that we are falling behind in many categories like education and income. It's not crazy to expect that poverty leads to crime. No matter the race, that is the truth. You can go to the trailer parks of Wisconsin and find a higher crime rate than other areas in the same town. It's the same with Atlanta and America overall. Poverty leads to crime.

I love how nonchalantly a few of you write off slavery. It's time to get over it? What am I getting over?The fact that I am a CREATED race? Remember the story of how your ___ immigrated to America? Doesn't that give you pride? When learning the story of MY heritage, I didn't exactly feel pride. As a child, that's a lot to wrap your head around. I asked myself, what can I take pride in? Thankfully, my mother, education and maturity taught me to value that history and I allowed it to empower me. But that's a tall order and we're dealing with generational issues of low self-image and feeling very un-empowered.

Slavery forced Africans to let go of their history, family, language, religions and culture. In one fail swoop, my heritage was wiped away and there was no turning back. There was no way to solve the damage done and now we must all deal with it. How are we going to deal with it? As this article shows, minorities are not going anywhere. Where will you run to? The moon?

Names were replaced and chains (tangible and not) were placed on us. After slavery, there were over 100 years of legalized chains which prevented Blacks from having equal rights. Take any group, ANY GROUP, from its home, force a new EVERYTHING on them, enslave them for hundreds of years and what can you expect when you release them? Especially when society continues to say they are less and expects less from them? Those Africans didn't have $20 in their pockets or the freedom to start anything. They were prohibited from READING! And this was less than 100 years ago! Yet, their descendants should somehow measure equally to Whites? And slavery doesn't hold any weight today? Give me a break!! Slavery is alive in kicking in ALL of us. As witnessed by you pompous folks who think you are too good to be around minorities and see all in one way.

RE: Crime Stats. I will not deny that Blacks are disproportionately represented in the prison system. As I said, poverty can do that. However, you should be more careful with your sweeping allegations and how you word things. Studies have shown minorities and/or those with older vehicles have much higher pull, arrest, and conviction rates. Cops, whether on purpose or not, see "suspect" with certain people more than others. That does NOT mean certain groups COMMIT crimes more than others. Also, and maybe this comes from living in GA, but you need to remember Blacks are only 12% of this country! And some areas have little to none. It's not even possible to blame Blacks for committing MOST crimes. Check out what the FEDERAL GOV has to say about it http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/pub/pdf/cvus/current/cv0540.pdf.

Also it's important to note that most crimes are not interracial. Again check out the FED's stats, MOST crimes committed against you are done by your own http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/pub/pdf/cvus/current/cv0542.pdf

Your fear and white flight are mostly unfounded. Yes, Blacks are ARRESTED and CONVICTED at higher rates for some violent crimes. But it is impossible to say we commit more. How can you quantify that? Rape is the most common violent crime. It is also mostly unreported. Based on the demographics of this country, I'm all but certain your assumptions are incorrect. But this is a silly game and we shouldn't even go there...why should we have to prove ourselves? Can we not get acceptance based on being human? Or are we still stuck in slavery? It's either one or the other.

The real issues are poverty and education. Until everyone has access to good schools and a decent quality of life, we will have citizens (of every color) who are more likely to commit crime, use drugs and become disconnected from their communities. How can you expect people to care about YOUR community? You make it so clear that they are beneath you and that this is somehow your pristine territory, so again where's the motivation to change their "ghetto ways" or whatever you call them? It's time to realize we live in ONE community.

Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Surprise, Surprise...Ope hates rap!

So Ope is in the middle of her two-part "After Imus" show. From what I can tell, she decided to focus on hip-hop music.

While I can agree we should look at all media and use this as a chance to open dialogue, I am disturbed by the quick turn to bashing hip-hop. I grew up listening to this music and will make no excuses for listening! I understand the complaints surrounding the music but am saddened by how all of us have shifted the blame. This is a GROWN man who made these comments. Not some impressionable teen. He knew full well what he was saying. Additionally his choice of words ("jiggaboo" and "nappy-headed") are not common in the hip-hop community.

I'm sick of people dabbling in the African-American world and thinking they know all about us AND what all of OUR problems are. EARTH has a problem with how we treat women. It's been a problem since the beginning of time. Yet, we're placing blame on a 30-year old music genre? Give me a break!

I know Oprah has a well noted bias against hip-hop, but even she should know better. The media loves to place blame but this time they have it all wrong. The blame lies with Imus. Yes, we should examine every part of our culture and discuss accordingly. But let's not start or stop with hip-hop. It's much deeper than that. Women and Blacks were NOT equal, to white men, 30 years ago. Hip-hop did not ruin some magical land of equality. Oprah you do a disservice to all by running with this "hip-hop is to blame" concept.

Thursday, April 12, 2007

You can't negate hate....

LOL. The title is my Jesse Jackson ode ;) I got tired of reading the garbage comments on CNN. So here's what I posted....

I find it appalling for anyone to negate this Imus situation or to pass the blame. Imus clearly has a problem with stereotypes and bias towards minorities. He has called a respected journalist “the cleaning lady” and his producer has likened the Williams sisters to animals. Now he calls a triumphant group of women “nappy-headed hos.” There is no righting this wrong.

Over the past few days, I have read about this so called double standard. Apparently, “urban” DJs and rappers use this term all the time. Well I grew up on hip-hop and listen to “urban” radio daily. I have yet to hear “nappy-headed ho.” I would love for someone to provide details on where this term is used. I am not excusing hip-hop; it definitely has its moments of misogyny. But, doesn’t the world? Have we not limited women since forever? Again, I am not excusing the use of words like “ho.” But, I see it from a different perspective. The music represents the culture we (or maybe “they”) live in. It is not always right nor is always wrong. We cannot blame a music genre for the obvious racism and sexism displayed by Imus and his producer. These are grown men who should know better.

In closing, I would like to point out how some trivialize the involvement of Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson. If people would read beyond sound bites and mishaps, they would see the truth about both men. They have long histories of civil rights activism and involvement with the “little people” in our country. Think what you will about their mistakes or what appears to be a love of fame. But, no one can negate their contributions.

For the record, both of their histories include fighting against misogyny in rap and violence. Additionally, Mr. Sharpton discusses various topics on his daily radio show. I am not an Imus fan but I do listen to Sharpton. I do not agree with everything he says. However, I am certain he discusses the issues your viewers directed him to. Sadly, pointing out the more important “Black problems” shows just what’s wrong here.

Wednesday, April 11, 2007

Update...Imus fired from MSNBC!

**UPDATE*** MSNBC is no longer a loser. They smartened up and fired Imus!!! Now let's see what WFAN does.

Also add these companies to the winners...General Motors, Sprint Nextel, GlaxoSmithKline, PetMed Express, and American Express. These companies have also pulled ads from Imus' show. Money talks!

Winners/Losers

It's only humpday but I already have some winners and losers....

Winners:

Rutger's womens basketball team and their coach - I hate to say this but…they made me proud sounding all articulate and what not ;) You know how some like to think articulate Black folk are uncommon (Biden/Obama). Loved how eloquent and respectful they were. If you still aren't offended, something is WRONG with YOU.

Proctor & Gamble, Staples and Bigelow Tea – Kudos for dumping Imus. Green matters more than any color these days (as the Rutger's coach pointed out) and I'm glad a few recognized the power of Black dollars.

Some NFL players – I hear a few players were concerned Adam and Chris were messing with their images. Well, they should be happy now!

Al Sharpton – I don't always agree, but I always respected Al's game. Dude is the best interviewer! I listen faithfully and already knew this. But he really did it to Imus yesterday. If only all journalists were that honest and real.

Losers:

NFL teams – So the new commish wants to hold teams/owners responsible for player misconduct. Wow. I know a lot of folks are worried. I fully expect the draft and future negotiations to focus on moral issues and off-field behavior.

Pacman and his college buddy Chris Henry – Damn. One year for 80k in ones! ;) Just kidding, I realize he was questioned in ten incidents. But, a year still seems like a lot. He's going to miss out on $1.2 million in pay. OUCH! I bet he stays away from Magic City and tries to hunt down those other strippers…he needs his money back! And I'm late because I just realized they played for the same college team. Birds of a feather….

Imus, MSNBC and WFAN – Do I even need to say why? Okay, what the hell is a two-week suspension? Screw y'all!

Hilary Clinton – She just lost my support. Why did I receive an email telling me to join her in sending words of "respect" to the Rutger's team? Um, Hilary, please stop trying to bait us Black folks. If you really want to do something, publicly denounce Imus and vow to NEVER go on his show. My baby-daddy (Barack) is in Atlanta on Saturday. Wanna guess where I'll be?

Bama:

Deion Sanders...that burgundy get-up bothered me. And yesterday he did an interview from his steps...indoors...with a sweater and fedora on...

Monday, April 9, 2007

Update: Imus on Sharpton

Al just wrapped up his interview with Imus. I'll be brief with my recap:

* Imus said he was having a conversation ("shooting the jive" as he said)and got carried away with the jokes. He admitted they were racist but says he was not being racist when he said them. *scratching chin*

* Imus says his work with sickle-cell and inner-city kids proves he is not a racist

* Imus says his friends know he's not a bad guy

* Imus has not thought of the appropriate punishment

* Al said the appropriate punishment is him resigning or being fired. Imus disagreed and said Al (and others calling for firing) are misinformed.

* Congresswoman Carolyn Kilpatrick (and a brother from the NABJ) ripped Imus a new one! They mentioned their daughters and how Imus' comments could affect them. They mentioned how African-Americans already struggle with identity and meeting the White standard of beauty. They discussed how these Black girls were likely struggling at the mostly white Rutgers. At one point, Imus said "There's no pleasing you people." He tried to back-track and said he meant Al and Kilpatrick and NOT Blacks.

* A faithful Imus listener phoned in on his behalf. The listener said Imus led him to do work with inner-city kids and helped his foundation financially. Imus kept saying there are many more who will give like testimony. And the point is? How does this erase what he said?

* Imus tried to call Al out for not knowing what our federal government spends on sickle-cell. He implied that all Blacks should know these numbers and he was somehow more "in-tune" because he knew the numbers.

* Some guy (another Imus fan) called in and said the real problem is...drumroll please...HIP-HOP. What haven't we blamed on Hip-Hop? I am SICK of this nonsense. Back to the caller...he said "nappy-headed hos" is a hip-hop term and that's where Imus got it from. Ummm...NO it's not. Both "nappy-headed" and "ho" predate hip-hop you idiot! And even if it were a "hip-hop term", how do we blame a music genre for an OLD man's comments?

Nappyheaded hos? F*&# Imus!

WTF?! And people say racism doesn't exist....

So Imus and his producer Sid Rosenburg had a ball making fun of Black women the other day. The women of Rutgers' basketball team were called hardcore hos, nappyheaded hos and even jiggaboos....ON AIR....both TV and RADIO!!

This Rosenberg guy is a TRUE gem. He was fired two times before over offensive on-air comments. He basically called Serena and Venus Williams animals and hinted that they look like the Africans in National Geographic magazine. This time around, he added to Imus' racist nonsense. He described the game, a battle of pretty vs. "rough", as being like a Spike Lee film. He said it was "like the jiggaboos vs. the wannabees". How this was relevant I don't know! Why he said "Do the Right Thing" was the movie in question, I really don't know. It was School Daze butthole!

Catch Imus, and his apology, on Al Sharpton today. If your stations do not carry the syndicated show, you can check it out online. The website is sharptontalk.net and the show runs from 1-4pm. If he isn't fired, I say we boycott MSNBC!!

Pacman, Pacman, Pacman


Oh Adam why? Why did you have $80,000, in ones, at the Vegas strip club? Why do you look like you smoke an ounce a day? Why have you behaved in such an ignorant and embarrassing way? First it was Ron Mexico and now this!

I caught bits of Pacman Jones' interview with my favorite bama (Deion Sanders). Interesting stuff indeed! First off, why did Deion look like the Burgundy Bandit? *sigh* he hasn't a clue. But, seriously, the interview was actually very entertaining. I cannot say that I believe Pacman has learned anything but why would I? Why would anyone believe that? Why would anyone expect these athletes to be saints?

A little background for those who are oblivious to what I'm talking about…NFL/NBA ballers can't stay out of trouble! Most recently, two guys, with Atlanta ties, have received a lot of local (Atlanta) and national attention. The biggest story involves Pacman Jones, an Atlanta native and current NFL player for the Titans. He was allegedly involved in 10 criminal incidents over the past two years. He is now facing a stiff penalty with many calling for indefinite suspension. Then there is Michael Vick, the starting QB for the Atlanta Falcons. He has had a few brushes with the law himself! After his water-bottle incident, people were calling him a "thug" and saying he should be suspended

Our society has set them up on a pedestal and allows them to get by in too many ways. Given that our society overlooks things like school performance and violations, in favor of having the players play, how can we expect good behavior? This question is especially valid when we consider many players come from less than perfect circumstances (broken homes, crime-ridden neighborhoods, poor families, etc.).

If you take an immature teen/young man, who has never had money (and/or much stability), give him millions and treat him like he's above everyone else, how can we balk when they do stupid things like bring a trash bag full of $80k to a strip club or sneak marijuana on a plane?

I think the leagues have done a poor job in mentoring and getting players acclimated to this new lifestyle. I am reminded of how the NBA changed its rules and now requires players to wear suits to games. The commissioner was concerned the league was developing the wrong image (too much hip-hop/urban influence.) That may sound good to some. But, in my mind, he was barking up the wrong tree. What the players wear makes little difference when they are acting like hooligans.

It's time we stop treating players like they are above everyone else AND for the leagues to take more responsibility for these young men. Yes, it is ultimately up to the players to behave. But, a normal employer runs criminal background checks and consults references. If the NBA/NFL wants to hire troubled youth or those with limited exposure to civility or wealth, it becomes their responsibility to help these players….especially if they/we EXPECT them to behave!

Saturday, April 7, 2007

An apology for slavery?


As I'm sure everyone knows, Virginia legislators have expressed "profound regret" for the role Virginia played in enslaving African-Americans. At first, this "apology" did nothing for me and I wondered what the point was. But, I was still happy to hear it as I was hoping it made someone feel better. I also saw no harm and felt pride in my home state for this progressive move. Fast forward a few months and some Georgia Democrats are proposing a similar resolution.

After reading Republican legislators boldly say, "it will never happen" and "I don't owe anyone an apology", and reading locals negate the apology and mock the Black experience (in the AJC's "Vent"), I have to piece together my newfound thoughts on this. So here are my responses to the most common arguments...

"The victims are all dead"

Many of the victims are still alive and represent 12% of our country. Slavery did not end with the emancipation proclamation and its effects are reaching into the future. Current legislators may not have owned slaves but they were definitely around when Jim Crow was alive and kicking. Jim Crow was merely an extension of the same mentality which told people it was okay to enslave Africans in the first place.Take any group of people strip them of their history, culture and abilities to be self-sufficient and the chances are they will struggle for generations to come. Add in 400+ years of slavery, and another 100 or so years of legal discrimination, and another X years of discrimination and racism, based on a longstanding mindset that this group is beneath Whites, and struggle and hardship is all but guaranteed for many years and generations to come.

If we compare African-Americans (statistically) to other groups, I think it's clear what I mean. However, I think education is the clearest example, as it's the root of our greatest divides. Slaves were barred from learning and in some states, teaching a slave (or later African-American) to read was illegal. Once slavery ended, there was legal segregation and the schools were far from equal. Segregation ended the same year my mom was born...not so long ago. Moreover, there were many years of resistance to this and other civil rights issues. Some areas weren't integrated until the 70s! I was born in the 70s! Fast forward to now and minorities are still falling behind. Inner city schools (and others with large percentages of African-Americans) are far from equal. They started out inferior and only got worse.
Therefore, you have generation after generation growing up with low expectations when it comes to education. However, the media and "experts" seem oblivious to this and keep asking "why?" It's evident this is a systemic problem deeply rooted in our beginnings here. Don't get me started on how the slave mentality still exists in the African-American community. Our culture is almost solely based on our experiences here and sadly, a lot of our history has created horrible patterns of self-defeating behavior. We still have kids who think education is not for them and learning is a White thing. Where do you think that comes from?

"Why do you need an apology?"

Personally, an apology won't make me feel any better about race relations in our country. But, I do feel we've treaded too lightly on the issue of slavery and how it still plays into our society. I look at how separating families and restricting education created generational trends, which still exist and wonder how we can honestly say slavery is a thing of the past. I see evidence of slavery embedded in my culture and it's hard to deny the effects. I also look at our attempts to right wrongs with Japanese Americans and Native Americans and wonder why the biggest crime against humanity got brushed under the table. I guess it makes people feel better to pretend it's a thing of the past. Jay-Z's words apply here: "men lie, women lie, but numbers don't." Statistically speaking, African-Americans are still enslaved.

"What will an apology solve?"

I would hope an apology leads to more discussions. I think we spend too much time either being angry over what happened or trying to distance ourselves from what happened and continues to happen. All the while, what happened still affects our country today. Maybe those conversations could lead to a deeper awareness for both Blacks and non-Blacks. I tend to think non-Blacks are less than aware of how race is woven into our society. While Blacks (and other minorities) are sometimes overly aware. We have to find a way for each side to gain an understanding of each other.

I completely understand when people say they didn't own slaves or they weren't responsible for XYZ. I get it. But, I also think many don't recognize that White privilege still exists and how race still matters. I've heard many negative statements, about Blacks, which generalized problems. I've read "those" parents aren't interested in raising kids. "Those" kids are violent or unruly. "Those" people need to get up off their butts. It goes on and on. And I know those feelings are common across the country. However, what I don't get is why anyone would believe "those" people are really so different. We bleed the same blood, literally and figuratively! Therefore, if "those" people are the same, there is obviously a problem. But, we have to admit to it first.

An apology can't change much. African-Americans are an invented ethnicity. Most know little to nothing about African culture or our heritage/lineage. Nothing will change that. Thousands died on the journey here and millions suffered as chattel. Nothing will erase any of the horrors African-Americans have faced since arriving in the US. Nevertheless, I hope small steps, like an apology, will lead to a new direction for everyone.

Bratz = Slutz?

Another birthday has come and gone. My daughter is now 8 years old. Diapers and Elmos are long gone. Not surprisingly, she's into playing with dolls. Her favorite being the mildly controversial Bratz kind. I have heard arguments, here and there, from mothers, that these dolls are mini-prostitutes and represent all the wrong things. They blame the dolls for sterotyping and sexualizing women. They say banning Bratz, in their homes, represents taking a stand for "something".

As with Christmas, my daughter received Bratz dolls and related items for her birthday. Do I have a problem with this? Obviously not. I just do not get the debate I guess. All Bratz dolls have decent outfits on. I would not let MY child wear all of them, but, what's the big deal if her doll does? She has themed ones (genie, figure skater, etc.,) and their outfits are far from hookerish.

I also appreciate the diversity of Bratz dolls. Growing up, I had to miss out on a few Barbies because they only came in the White/Blue-eyed/Blonde model and my mom boycotted. I love that I can buy her Black, Hispanic, Asian or White dolls. She has all colors and that's a great thing!

I REALLY don't understand the mothers who ban Bratz but allow Barbie dolls. I grew up with Barbie, turned out fine, and can't see taking issue with Bratz. But I also cannot see placing Barbie on a pedestal and taking issue with Bratz dolls. Barbie's signature get-up was a mini-skirt, halter top and go-go boots. She looked like a 70s hooker!! The Black Barbies had way too much pink and blue going on to look classy and their boobs were sticking way out. She wasn't married to Ken but they shared houses and cars!

The same arguments could be made, against Barbie, as some are making about Bratz dolls. Neither is how I'd want my young daughter to dress or behave. They are supposedly older teens/young women and she's only 8! I'm pretty sure she *gets* that and I'm not worried about her thinking this is what women should look like. I'm her biggest role model and I don't dress like that or wear THAT much makeup. Barbie/Bratz are not role models they are TOYS. My daughter thinks theyare beautiful, but she knows she can't wear makeup until 16ish and that I'm fairly conservative about her clothes (no bikinis or minis.) I suspect the rules I place on her and how I dress/apply makeup will matter more than what doll she plays with.

Wednesday, March 7, 2007

The "N-Word" gets banned....

Calling all rappers....

In what was billed as a purely symbolic measure, New York's city council banned the word Nigger. Yep, I said it. No "n-word" today. I heard about this last week and have been thinking about this ever since.

Earlier, I mentioned a relevant documentary we watched. It's called "The N-Word" and as you can imagine, it explores the history and usage of the word. Everyone from historians and politicians to actors and journalists were interviewed. One of the most memorable interviews showed Bryant Gumbel admitting to using the word with his buddies. Go figure! Here we were questioning his connection to Blacks and just how Black he was. All the while, he's a n-word ;)

Back to the point, as noted in the documentary, this word has been part of the African-American culture for many years. Initially, it was used to describe us. We were Black and, like the Latin/Spanish language says we were "Nigers." That's the most logical explanation for what became Negro and Nigger in our American society. But, what isn't clear is when/how we decided to use the word on ourselves.

Historians (credible and street) have said the "house/field niggers" situation was to blame. They felt a need to distinguish themselves from each other and labeled the other group "niggers." Maybe that's true. I know what is true. Some Blacks currently use a deviation of the n-word and people are making a big fuss over nothing in my opinion.

I have heard the following arguments against the use. Of course, I've added my responses…

It's hypocritical and unfair to get angry if a non-Black person calls you that but to use it "lovingly" amongst yourselves.

So let me get this straight…there is a large group of non-Blacks that would really love to use this word. They are waiting for an "okay" and are upset that Blacks only "allow" this within their group? If so, aren't we barking up the wrong tree here? Shouldn't we be asking WHY a non-Black person WANTS to use this word? Shouldn't we question their motives and intents? You see, it's usually quite clear that Blacks do not mean harm when they are using that word. At least not the racially-charged harm we associate with non-Blacks using it!

That's the whole point. Within a group, you can say and do things that are understood INSIDE the group. You know what your group is thinking and how they operate. But, an outsider cannot do the same because you do not know their motives or what they have on their minds. This is the same everywhere. I know people, of all colors, whose parents said "What goes on in our home stays in our home." And that's because it's FAMILY business that no one else could understand and, thus, they shouldn't have the privilege of knowing.

Which leads to the "so why do hip-hop artists say it so much?" question. That is a valid question and my only response is "hip-hop was never meant to crossover." And that's the truth. Just like Rock-n-Roll and R&B, hip-hop was not created for the masses. It was created for a group of people who would understand it's energy and words. Even today, artists lose credibility when they "sell out" and make music for all. I'm pretty sure no one expected 70% of hip-hop albums to be purchased by White teens. But, now that this is reality, I do wonder if, at the least, we should scale back on the usage in music?

Martin Luther King and Rosa Parks are rolling over in their graves

The word was used, by Blacks, when both were alive. It's not a new thing. It's discussed more and is definitely in the open with movies, videos and a new rapper coming out every week. But, it's not new. And, Rosa Parks (or her people) spent a lot of time and efforts suing Outkast. Were they suing them for using the n-word? Nope. They were suing because they used Rosa's name to title one of their songs. In the end, Rosa settled and took cash from rappers who have said the word many times on and off record.

It makes non-Blacks confused

There is no confusion. If anyone, in this day and age, is confused over the n-word they are either slow or too young to listen to explicit lyrics in the first place.

It continues to limit us and encourage racism/discrimination

The verdict it still out on that one. Maybe it's because I am part of the hip-hop generation. But, I do not see it that deeply. In fact, I rarely associate the word "nigga" with negativity! I know many things, that some do, add to destroying our overall self-image. But, two brothers/sisters saying the word here and there doesn’t make me feel bad. Unless it's done in public or around children, I actually feel a sense of pride in our united community. At times, our private dialect is the only visible sign of a unique African-American culture. We spent so much time fighting for equality and failed to realize, equality does not have to mean morphing into something else. We are free to have our own culture and ways. Just as Hispanics can speak Spanglish at home, we can and should do what we want with our own.

Pass the dutchie...

I'm sure, by now, you've heard of the Texas teens giving young boys (2 and 5) marijuana and having the nerve to RECORD it. Well, a reporter gained access to the uncle and did this interview. Now, I'm not sure what point the YouTube poster was making. But, as you will see, he/she added a title page, at the end, whichs says "Diversity Sucks." I suppose this was meant as proof that Blacks suck? I don't know....



Lord have mercy on my soul. Did this fool say this is a common behavior in the Black community? Did he justify his behavior by saying "9 times out of 10" these kids will be given weed (by adults) and/or smoke it themselves.

And here we are thinking racism is our biggest hindrance. Nope. It's ignorance! Ignorance causes folks to be racists and it caused this fool to think giving his young nephews weed was OKAY. All the while, he admits he would not smoke around his kids and no one ever did this to him. I think he's slow…or rather, I hope he's slow.

Wednesday, February 28, 2007

Response to Kenny Eng...

So for my third and FINAL post regarding Kenny Eng, I am responding to his article. Perhaps he, or someone like him, will see this and realize these are crazy "reasons" to hate anyone. Even if they were true, I cannot imagine how they would drive one to *hate* an entire race of people. Given that he's angry over the treatment of Asians, I would definitely expect him to have a better understanding of African-Americans. I mean the guy is Mr. Science and all, so shouldn't his analytical skills be a little better than this?! I would expect an irrefutable article from "Kenny the God".

"Here is a list of reasons why we should discriminate against blacks, starting from the most obvious down to the least obvious"

Did someone request this list? That's my first thought and I definitely feel an equal level of contempt towards AsianWeek for publishing this mess and claiming it was a "mistake." But, seriously, who sits down and writes a list like this? It brings me back to grade school when, so desperate to fit in, we created reasons to dislike someone and spent too much time hating. As an adult, I realize hating is a personal problem.

"Blacks hate us. Every Asian who has ever come across them knows that they take almost every opportunity to hurl racist remarks at us."

Do they really? It's amazing that he is able to speak for an entire race of people. Amazing. Has he considered the possibility that his views are common within HIS race, and subsequently, Blacks react in turn? My husband and I do pretty good financially, but the Beauty Supply owners still sweat me like I need to steal barrettes and grease! They start off with an attitude and speak to me like I'm beneath them. I take it in stride because I am used to these types of interactions. Growing up, I got the message that Asians were superior mentally and thus more "acceptable" than Blacks. All the while, African-Americans have provided countless inventions and discoveries to our society. AND, I was an African-American student who always tested in the top 5%. But, I still refused to retaliate with hatred.

There is a longstanding history of issues between Blacks and Asians. I will not claim to know the origin of these problems, but I know they exist. Part of me thinks it comes from the stereotypes Blacks have fought for hundreds of years. As I have seen/heard similar sentiments from various foreigners. Even my African friends have bought into the negative images of Black America. So, in hopes of making it here, they chose to distance themselves from the unseemly Black folks. Just like the Asian kids I grew up with.

"In my experience, I would say about 90 percent of blacks I have met, regardless of age or environment, poke fun at the very sight of an Asian."

First, he hasn't met many Black people. Second, is this a Black problem? Or is it a problem stemming from America's history of White Rule? Now, I'm not saying that to push everything on Whites. But, I am saying our country's history still impacts how ALL minorities are viewed and treated. He mentions Rush Hour and Exit Wounds, but who wrote and directed those movies? Not a Black man. What company put those films out? Not a Black one. It would make more sense to bond together and fight those stereotypes than to promote them.

"Contrary to media depictions, I would argue that blacks are weak-willed. They are the only race that has been enslaved for 300 years. It's unbelievable that it took them that long to fight back. On the other hand, we slaughtered the Russians in the Japanese-Russo War."

I don't know where to start here. Let's start with the facts. After the Native American population dwindled, settlers needed someone else to do their work for free. So in 1503, the first African Slaves arrived. They were chattel slaves; which means they were 100% owned by someone else. For 352 years, millions of Africans and African-Americans were forced to build this country, for free, in the worst imaginable conditions. For 352 years, this was all LEGAL.

Following the "emancipation" of slaves, we then had over 100 years of LEGAL discrimination meant to hold us back and prevent growth. Here we were with no defined identity (losing your entire culture can do that), no financial history to build upon and nothing that encouraged a positive self-image. Yet, we are weak-willed for not ending slavery? No, we are STRONG willed for enduring it and having the courage to stand up for ourselves and demand change. We have fought an impossible battle for many years and I am proud of that history.

Do your homework Kenny; we've been fighting back forever! But, we were outnumbered and outgunned. We were in a land where we did not know the language and were forced into illiteracy and inferiority. But, in case you still need proof here's why we are strong: we did the work no one else would/could do, we are alive and kicking after 500+ years of slavery (tangible and institutionalized), Nat Turner, Harriet Tubman, Martin Luther King, Jr., Malcolm X….need I go on?

"Blacks are easy to coerce. This is proven by the fact that so many of them, including Reverend Al Sharpton, tend to be Christians. Yet, at the same time, they spend much of their time whining about how much they hate "the whites that oppressed them. Correct me if I'm wrong, but wasn't Christianity the religion that the whites forced upon them?"

Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't most Asian countries ruled by communism, monarchies and/or dictators? Aren't those same countries known for their interfering governments? Now I don't mean that as a low blow, but…

Had it not been for Christianity, and the belief that there is a greater power out there, I wonder if African-Americans would still exist. True, this religion was "given" to us with our new identity. But, Christianity predates the slave owners who "forced" it on us. So, if something helped us survive, and became a positive and integral part of our new culture, I ask where the problem is?

"Blacks don't get it. I know it's a blunt and crass comment, but it's true. When I was in high school, I recall a class debate in which one half of the class was chosen to defend black slavery and the other half was chosen to defend liberation. Disturbingly, blacks on the prior side viciously defended slavery as well as Christianity. They say if you don't study history, you're condemned to repeat it."

So the class assignment was to debate slavery right? The Black kids, who were pretending to be pro-slavery, did a good job. Where's the problem here? It's very likely those students knew more about slavery than he did. With the limited history we receive in public schools, I think that's a GREAT thing. It shows someone's parents were giving them our history. Kenny's examples showed Black students who knew their history and were able to articulate a clear argument. I do not get his far-reaching conclusion.

"In high school, I only remember one black student ever attending any of my honors and AP courses. And that student was caught cheating."

I attended a Gifted Center from 3-8th grade and honors/AP courses after that. I grew up in a mostly white county, but, over the years, I still encountered more than a few Blacks! Where the hell did he grow up? I will not say I never cheated. That was a common part of the honors culture. Bright, driven kids will always try to outsmart authority and maintain perfection. But, unlike many counterparts, I was never caught ;)

"It is rather troubling that they are treated as heroes, but then again, whites will do anything to defend them."

When are we treated as heroes? When are whites doing ANYTHING to defend us? Sorry, he lost me with that one.

Why I hate Kenneth Eng

First things first, I do not actually *hate* anyone. It's just not in me to have that much contempt for another human being. I may dislike what some people or even groups of people do or imply, but it's just not in me to hate.

That being said, here's a few reasons I dislike Kenneth Eng:

• He's a young idiot. I think the guy is 22-23 years old. Yet he thinks he's wise enough to make assessments on everything from the state of Black America to Christianity. Most of his comments are far-fetched and wrong. I will address yesterday's article specifically, but this guy has written a bunch of nonsense. Wily Filipino has a great write-up on his previous works. He's sadly hilarious.

• His articles are based on unfounded theories and lack any historical backup. For example, he says most religious folk are dumb and/or poor. Given that the majority of our country are believers, I find that hard to believe. I'm starting to think he says inflammatory stuff just to say it. But, as noted in my first bullet, that's a trait of being young and dumb. I'm just getting over "diarrhea of the mouth." You need experience and maturity to cure it.

• He's not a great writer! I saw quite a few things he has written and I am far from impressed. He thinks he's an authority on everything but he's an authority on nothing! See his Amazon.com blog for the real "jewels." The guy calls himself "God" and brags about being the "youngest science fiction writer" ever. Pure comedy.

• By writing these articles and blogs, he is encouraging a society of bias and discrimination. Yet, he bemoans Blacks, and others, for their discrimination against Asians. What an idiot!

Okay, I could go on and on belittling this guy but I'd rather answer his article….I'll be back shortly….

Tuesday, February 27, 2007

Why I hate Blacks...

AsianWeek, a San-Francisco, CA based newspaper, published an article titled Why I Hate Blacks. The article was written by Kenneth Eng. A quick google shows he's written ridiculous crap before. I don't know what to say to this. I just read it and am speechless for now.

I hate to give this guy attention but...wow...


Why I Hate Blacks
Kenneth Eng, Feb 23, 2007

Here is a list of reasons why we should discriminate against blacks, starting from the most obvious down to the least obvious:

• Blacks hate us. Every Asian who has ever come across them knows that they take almost every opportunity to hurl racist remarks at us.

• In my experience, I would say about 90 percent of blacks I have met, regardless of age or environment, poke fun at the very sight of an Asian. Furthermore, their activity in the media proves their hatred: Rush Hour, Exit Wounds, Hot 97, etc.

• Contrary to media depictions, I would argue that blacks are weak-willed. They are the only race that has been enslaved for 300 years. It's unbelievable that it took them that long to fight back. On the other hand, we slaughtered the Russians in the Japanese-Russo War.

• Blacks are easy to coerce. This is proven by the fact that so many of them, including Reverend Al Sharpton, tend to be Christians. Yet, at the same time, they spend much of their time whining about how much they hate "the whites that oppressed them." Correct me if I'm wrong, but wasn't Christianity the religion that the whites forced upon them?

• Blacks don't get it. I know it's a blunt and crass comment, but it's true. When I was in high school, I recall a class debate in which one half of the class was chosen to defend black slavery and the other half was chosen to defend liberation. Disturbingly, blacks on the prior side viciously defended slavery as well as Christianity. They say if you don't study history, you're condemned to repeat it.

• In high school, I only remember one black student ever attending any of my honors and AP courses. And that student was caught cheating.

• It is rather troubling that they are treated as heroes, but then again, whites will do anything to defend them.

There goes my hope...

In today's WP, there is an article which claims being a Mormon or an old smoker would hurt a candidate more than being a woman or minority. We are supposed to be happy, I guess, to see these results. But, here are the issues I have:

We are only a few weeks into the '08 race and nearly every news story revolves around Barack's race and Hillary's gender. Obviously, these things matter. We have yet to see a minority or female run the country. I get it. It's a historic thing. But, in the grand scheme of things, will race or gender affect one's ability to run the country? What our country needs is moderate leadership that brings us together and allows us to tackle the tough issues. While I'm not convinced we are ready for a minority or female prez, doing poll after poll will get us nowhere. We need to get to the nitty gritty and let people see more than the superficially obvious. Barack has yet to pay his Black Tax and Hillary needs to pay her Strong Woman Tax. The only way, to do either, is to allow them to prove themselves BEYOND race and gender. They need us to forget WHAT they are and determine WHO they are. Enough already with the race/gender stuff.

People lie. Yeah, I know it's anonymous. But, if a stranger calls your home and asks you a bunch of sensitive questions, most people will give a PC answer! Even the biggest male chauvinist or racist, knows (usually) that his views are not polite in our (somewhat) civilized society.

If people are willing to discard a guy/gal over smoking cigarettes or being a Mormon, well I think it's safe to say we're all in trouble! I know cigarettes are unhealthy and no, we don't want our prez dying off. But, I'm willing to take a smoker if he has the right answers for our country. Reagan is called one of the greats (haha), and was elected TWICE. He was almost eighty when he left office. Now we know Nancy was basically holding him up and feeding words to him! Okay, on second thought….no old guys. But, to the point, we're focusing on the wrong things….I think ;)

Monday, February 26, 2007

Hillary vs. Barack

No there's no new drama to report...though I'm sure it's brewing in some journalist or staffer's mind. But, in my own mind, there is a battle. Beyond the obvious question (can either win?), I have struggled to form an opinion on the who's the BEST man/woman for the job.

Here's what I know so far:

Hillary is smart, strong, empowering and has some good ideas.

Obama is smart, eloquent, charismatic, inspiring and has good ideals.

I'm currently signed up to help both. So far, this only means tons of emails begging for my money. Hillary is hoping to raise $1 million this week. Supposedly, doing this will make a big statement and be historic according to Madeline Albright's email. I'm not excited.

After a THREE month wait, on my library wish list, my number finally came up for Obama's book. A day later, $40 million slaves was available too. I thought I'd won the lottery! LOL. Honestly, I want to read Rhoden's book first. But, in search of Obama's ideas (vs. ideals), I am reading his book. Like his speeches, it pulls you in and makes you feel good. But, I'm still searching for the ideas beyond a "new" government where everyone works to find an answer. Or maybe, that is the idea? Hmm...

Hopefully, this election will require candidates to actually present IDEAS and not rely on bashing each other or scaring their base into voting. I know only time will tell, but I'm really looking forward to hearing how Obama, Hillary, and all the others differ.