Surprise, Surprise...Ope hates rap!

So Ope is in the middle of her two-part "After Imus" show. From what I can tell, she decided to focus on hip-hop music.

While I can agree we should look at all media and use this as a chance to open dialogue, I am disturbed by the quick turn to bashing hip-hop. I grew up listening to this music and will make no excuses for listening! I understand the complaints surrounding the music but am saddened by how all of us have shifted the blame. This is a GROWN man who made these comments. Not some impressionable teen. He knew full well what he was saying. Additionally his choice of words ("jiggaboo" and "nappy-headed") are not common in the hip-hop community.

I'm sick of people dabbling in the African-American world and thinking they know all about us AND what all of OUR problems are. EARTH has a problem with how we treat women. It's been a problem since the beginning of time. Yet, we're placing blame on a 30-year old music genre? Give me a break!

I know Oprah has a well noted bias against hip-hop, but even she should know better. The media loves to place blame but this time they have it all wrong. The blame lies with Imus. Yes, we should examine every part of our culture and discuss accordingly. But let's not start or stop with hip-hop. It's much deeper than that. Women and Blacks were NOT equal, to white men, 30 years ago. Hip-hop did not ruin some magical land of equality. Oprah you do a disservice to all by running with this "hip-hop is to blame" concept.

You can't negate hate....

LOL. The title is my Jesse Jackson ode ;) I got tired of reading the garbage comments on CNN. So here's what I posted....

I find it appalling for anyone to negate this Imus situation or to pass the blame. Imus clearly has a problem with stereotypes and bias towards minorities. He has called a respected journalist “the cleaning lady” and his producer has likened the Williams sisters to animals. Now he calls a triumphant group of women “nappy-headed hos.” There is no righting this wrong.

Over the past few days, I have read about this so called double standard. Apparently, “urban” DJs and rappers use this term all the time. Well I grew up on hip-hop and listen to “urban” radio daily. I have yet to hear “nappy-headed ho.” I would love for someone to provide details on where this term is used. I am not excusing hip-hop; it definitely has its moments of misogyny. But, doesn’t the world? Have we not limited women since forever? Again, I am not excusing the use of words like “ho.” But, I see it from a different perspective. The music represents the culture we (or maybe “they”) live in. It is not always right nor is always wrong. We cannot blame a music genre for the obvious racism and sexism displayed by Imus and his producer. These are grown men who should know better.

In closing, I would like to point out how some trivialize the involvement of Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson. If people would read beyond sound bites and mishaps, they would see the truth about both men. They have long histories of civil rights activism and involvement with the “little people” in our country. Think what you will about their mistakes or what appears to be a love of fame. But, no one can negate their contributions.

For the record, both of their histories include fighting against misogyny in rap and violence. Additionally, Mr. Sharpton discusses various topics on his daily radio show. I am not an Imus fan but I do listen to Sharpton. I do not agree with everything he says. However, I am certain he discusses the issues your viewers directed him to. Sadly, pointing out the more important “Black problems” shows just what’s wrong here.

Update...Imus fired from MSNBC!

**UPDATE*** MSNBC is no longer a loser. They smartened up and fired Imus!!! Now let's see what WFAN does.

Also add these companies to the winners...General Motors, Sprint Nextel, GlaxoSmithKline, PetMed Express, and American Express. These companies have also pulled ads from Imus' show. Money talks!

Winners/Losers

It's only humpday but I already have some winners and losers....

Winners:

Rutger's womens basketball team and their coach - I hate to say this but…they made me proud sounding all articulate and what not ;) You know how some like to think articulate Black folk are uncommon (Biden/Obama). Loved how eloquent and respectful they were. If you still aren't offended, something is WRONG with YOU.

Proctor & Gamble, Staples and Bigelow Tea – Kudos for dumping Imus. Green matters more than any color these days (as the Rutger's coach pointed out) and I'm glad a few recognized the power of Black dollars.

Some NFL players – I hear a few players were concerned Adam and Chris were messing with their images. Well, they should be happy now!

Al Sharpton – I don't always agree, but I always respected Al's game. Dude is the best interviewer! I listen faithfully and already knew this. But he really did it to Imus yesterday. If only all journalists were that honest and real.

Losers:

NFL teams – So the new commish wants to hold teams/owners responsible for player misconduct. Wow. I know a lot of folks are worried. I fully expect the draft and future negotiations to focus on moral issues and off-field behavior.

Pacman and his college buddy Chris Henry – Damn. One year for 80k in ones! ;) Just kidding, I realize he was questioned in ten incidents. But, a year still seems like a lot. He's going to miss out on $1.2 million in pay. OUCH! I bet he stays away from Magic City and tries to hunt down those other strippers…he needs his money back! And I'm late because I just realized they played for the same college team. Birds of a feather….

Imus, MSNBC and WFAN – Do I even need to say why? Okay, what the hell is a two-week suspension? Screw y'all!

Hilary Clinton – She just lost my support. Why did I receive an email telling me to join her in sending words of "respect" to the Rutger's team? Um, Hilary, please stop trying to bait us Black folks. If you really want to do something, publicly denounce Imus and vow to NEVER go on his show. My baby-daddy (Barack) is in Atlanta on Saturday. Wanna guess where I'll be?

Bama:

Deion Sanders...that burgundy get-up bothered me. And yesterday he did an interview from his steps...indoors...with a sweater and fedora on...

Update: Imus on Sharpton

Al just wrapped up his interview with Imus. I'll be brief with my recap:

* Imus said he was having a conversation ("shooting the jive" as he said)and got carried away with the jokes. He admitted they were racist but says he was not being racist when he said them. *scratching chin*

* Imus says his work with sickle-cell and inner-city kids proves he is not a racist

* Imus says his friends know he's not a bad guy

* Imus has not thought of the appropriate punishment

* Al said the appropriate punishment is him resigning or being fired. Imus disagreed and said Al (and others calling for firing) are misinformed.

* Congresswoman Carolyn Kilpatrick (and a brother from the NABJ) ripped Imus a new one! They mentioned their daughters and how Imus' comments could affect them. They mentioned how African-Americans already struggle with identity and meeting the White standard of beauty. They discussed how these Black girls were likely struggling at the mostly white Rutgers. At one point, Imus said "There's no pleasing you people." He tried to back-track and said he meant Al and Kilpatrick and NOT Blacks.

* A faithful Imus listener phoned in on his behalf. The listener said Imus led him to do work with inner-city kids and helped his foundation financially. Imus kept saying there are many more who will give like testimony. And the point is? How does this erase what he said?

* Imus tried to call Al out for not knowing what our federal government spends on sickle-cell. He implied that all Blacks should know these numbers and he was somehow more "in-tune" because he knew the numbers.

* Some guy (another Imus fan) called in and said the real problem is...drumroll please...HIP-HOP. What haven't we blamed on Hip-Hop? I am SICK of this nonsense. Back to the caller...he said "nappy-headed hos" is a hip-hop term and that's where Imus got it from. Ummm...NO it's not. Both "nappy-headed" and "ho" predate hip-hop you idiot! And even if it were a "hip-hop term", how do we blame a music genre for an OLD man's comments?

Nappyheaded hos? F*&# Imus!

WTF?! And people say racism doesn't exist....

So Imus and his producer Sid Rosenburg had a ball making fun of Black women the other day. The women of Rutgers' basketball team were called hardcore hos, nappyheaded hos and even jiggaboos....ON AIR....both TV and RADIO!!

This Rosenberg guy is a TRUE gem. He was fired two times before over offensive on-air comments. He basically called Serena and Venus Williams animals and hinted that they look like the Africans in National Geographic magazine. This time around, he added to Imus' racist nonsense. He described the game, a battle of pretty vs. "rough", as being like a Spike Lee film. He said it was "like the jiggaboos vs. the wannabees". How this was relevant I don't know! Why he said "Do the Right Thing" was the movie in question, I really don't know. It was School Daze butthole!

Catch Imus, and his apology, on Al Sharpton today. If your stations do not carry the syndicated show, you can check it out online. The website is sharptontalk.net and the show runs from 1-4pm. If he isn't fired, I say we boycott MSNBC!!

Pacman, Pacman, Pacman

Oh Adam why? Why did you have $80,000, in ones, at the Vegas strip club? Why do you look like you smoke an ounce a day? Why have you behaved in such an ignorant and embarrassing way? First it was Ron Mexico and now this!

I caught bits of Pacman Jones' interview with my favorite bama (Deion Sanders). Interesting stuff indeed! First off, why did Deion look like the Burgundy Bandit? *sigh* he hasn't a clue. But, seriously, the interview was actually very entertaining. I cannot say that I believe Pacman has learned anything but why would I? Why would anyone believe that? Why would anyone expect these athletes to be saints?

A little background for those who are oblivious to what I'm talking about…NFL/NBA ballers can't stay out of trouble! Most recently, two guys, with Atlanta ties, have received a lot of local (Atlanta) and national attention. The biggest story involves Pacman Jones, an Atlanta native and current NFL player for the Titans. He was allegedly involved in 10 criminal incidents over the past two years. He is now facing a stiff penalty with many calling for indefinite suspension. Then there is Michael Vick, the starting QB for the Atlanta Falcons. He has had a few brushes with the law himself! After his water-bottle incident, people were calling him a "thug" and saying he should be suspended

Our society has set them up on a pedestal and allows them to get by in too many ways. Given that our society overlooks things like school performance and violations, in favor of having the players play, how can we expect good behavior? This question is especially valid when we consider many players come from less than perfect circumstances (broken homes, crime-ridden neighborhoods, poor families, etc.).

If you take an immature teen/young man, who has never had money (and/or much stability), give him millions and treat him like he's above everyone else, how can we balk when they do stupid things like bring a trash bag full of $80k to a strip club or sneak marijuana on a plane?

I think the leagues have done a poor job in mentoring and getting players acclimated to this new lifestyle. I am reminded of how the NBA changed its rules and now requires players to wear suits to games. The commissioner was concerned the league was developing the wrong image (too much hip-hop/urban influence.) That may sound good to some. But, in my mind, he was barking up the wrong tree. What the players wear makes little difference when they are acting like hooligans.

It's time we stop treating players like they are above everyone else AND for the leagues to take more responsibility for these young men. Yes, it is ultimately up to the players to behave. But, a normal employer runs criminal background checks and consults references. If the NBA/NFL wants to hire troubled youth or those with limited exposure to civility or wealth, it becomes their responsibility to help these players….especially if they/we EXPECT them to behave!

An apology for slavery?

As I'm sure everyone knows, Virginia legislators have expressed "profound regret" for the role Virginia played in enslaving African-Americans. At first, this "apology" did nothing for me and I wondered what the point was. But, I was still happy to hear it as I was hoping it made someone feel better. I also saw no harm and felt pride in my home state for this progressive move. Fast forward a few months and some Georgia Democrats are proposing a similar resolution.

After reading Republican legislators boldly say, "it will never happen" and "I don't owe anyone an apology", and reading locals negate the apology and mock the Black experience (in the AJC's "Vent"), I have to piece together my newfound thoughts on this. So here are my responses to the most common arguments...

"The victims are all dead"

Many of the victims are still alive and represent 12% of our country. Slavery did not end with the emancipation proclamation and its effects are reaching into the future. Current legislators may not have owned slaves but they were definitely around when Jim Crow was alive and kicking. Jim Crow was merely an extension of the same mentality which told people it was okay to enslave Africans in the first place.Take any group of people strip them of their history, culture and abilities to be self-sufficient and the chances are they will struggle for generations to come. Add in 400+ years of slavery, and another 100 or so years of legal discrimination, and another X years of discrimination and racism, based on a longstanding mindset that this group is beneath Whites, and struggle and hardship is all but guaranteed for many years and generations to come.

If we compare African-Americans (statistically) to other groups, I think it's clear what I mean. However, I think education is the clearest example, as it's the root of our greatest divides. Slaves were barred from learning and in some states, teaching a slave (or later African-American) to read was illegal. Once slavery ended, there was legal segregation and the schools were far from equal. Segregation ended the same year my mom was born...not so long ago. Moreover, there were many years of resistance to this and other civil rights issues. Some areas weren't integrated until the 70s! I was born in the 70s! Fast forward to now and minorities are still falling behind. Inner city schools (and others with large percentages of African-Americans) are far from equal. They started out inferior and only got worse.

Therefore, you have generation after generation growing up with low expectations when it comes to education. However, the media and "experts" seem oblivious to this and keep asking "why?" It's evident this is a systemic problem deeply rooted in our beginnings here. Don't get me started on how the slave mentality still exists in the African-American community. Our culture is almost solely based on our experiences here and sadly, a lot of our history has created horrible patterns of self-defeating behavior. We still have kids who think education is not for them and learning is a White thing. Where do you think that comes from?

"Why do you need an apology?"

Personally, an apology won't make me feel any better about race relations in our country. But, I do feel we've treaded too lightly on the issue of slavery and how it still plays into our society. I look at how separating families and restricting education created generational trends, which still exist and wonder how we can honestly say slavery is a thing of the past. I see evidence of slavery embedded in my culture and it's hard to deny the effects. I also look at our attempts to right wrongs with Japanese Americans and Native Americans and wonder why the biggest crime against humanity got brushed under the table. I guess it makes people feel better to pretend it's a thing of the past. Jay-Z's words apply here: "men lie, women lie, but numbers don't." Statistically speaking, African-Americans are still enslaved.

"What will an apology solve?"

I would hope an apology leads to more discussions. I think we spend too much time either being angry over what happened or trying to distance ourselves from what happened and continues to happen. All the while, what happened still affects our country today. Maybe those conversations could lead to a deeper awareness for both Blacks and non-Blacks. I tend to think non-Blacks are less than aware of how race is woven into our society. While Blacks (and other minorities) are sometimes overly aware. We have to find a way for each side to gain an understanding of each other.

I completely understand when people say they didn't own slaves or they weren't responsible for XYZ. I get it. But, I also think many don't recognize that White privilege still exists and how race still matters. I've heard many negative statements, about Blacks, which generalized problems. I've read "those" parents aren't interested in raising kids. "Those" kids are violent or unruly. "Those" people need to get up off their butts. It goes on and on. And I know those feelings are common across the country. However, what I don't get is why anyone would believe "those" people are really so different. We bleed the same blood, literally and figuratively! Therefore, if "those" people are the same, there is obviously a problem. But, we have to admit to it first.

An apology can't change much. African-Americans are an invented ethnicity. Most know little to nothing about African culture or our heritage/lineage. Nothing will change that. Thousands died on the journey here and millions suffered as chattel. Nothing will erase any of the horrors African-Americans have faced since arriving in the US. Nevertheless, I hope small steps, like an apology, will lead to a new direction for everyone.

Bratz = Slutz?

Another birthday has come and gone. My daughter is now 8 years old. Diapers and Elmos are long gone. Not surprisingly, she's into playing with dolls. Her favorite being the mildly controversial Bratz kind. I have heard arguments, here and there, from mothers, that these dolls are mini-prostitutes and represent all the wrong things. They blame the dolls for sterotyping and sexualizing women. They say banning Bratz, in their homes, represents taking a stand for "something".

As with Christmas, my daughter received Bratz dolls and related items for her birthday. Do I have a problem with this? Obviously not. I just do not get the debate I guess. All Bratz dolls have decent outfits on. I would not let MY child wear all of them, but, what's the big deal if her doll does? She has themed ones (genie, figure skater, etc.,) and their outfits are far from hookerish.

I also appreciate the diversity of Bratz dolls. Growing up, I had to miss out on a few Barbies because they only came in the White/Blue-eyed/Blonde model and my mom boycotted. I love that I can buy her Black, Hispanic, Asian or White dolls. She has all colors and that's a great thing!

I REALLY don't understand the mothers who ban Bratz but allow Barbie dolls. I grew up with Barbie, turned out fine, and can't see taking issue with Bratz. But I also cannot see placing Barbie on a pedestal and taking issue with Bratz dolls. Barbie's signature get-up was a mini-skirt, halter top and go-go boots. She looked like a 70s hooker!! The Black Barbies had way too much pink and blue going on to look classy and their boobs were sticking way out. She wasn't married to Ken but they shared houses and cars!

The same arguments could be made, against Barbie, as some are making about Bratz dolls. Neither is how I'd want my young daughter to dress or behave. They are supposedly older teens/young women and she's only 8! I'm pretty sure she *gets* that and I'm not worried about her thinking this is what women should look like. I'm her biggest role model and I don't dress like that or wear THAT much makeup. Barbie/Bratz are not role models they are TOYS. My daughter thinks theyare beautiful, but she knows she can't wear makeup until 16ish and that I'm fairly conservative about her clothes (no bikinis or minis.) I suspect the rules I place on her and how I dress/apply makeup will matter more than what doll she plays with.